Relationships Before 25!
"Serious dating starts at 25" according to science.
This is supported by the fact that certain parts of our brain which aids decision making is still under construction and probably wouldn't be done until we're 25! This means there's a tendency that our hormones or emotions control our decisions for the larger percent and we might not make the same choices if we were 25 or older -again that's science, not me!
"Does this mean my "Ex-es" and previous relationships were a myriad of child's play, faux love and what nots?" Nope!
- "Or possibly everything felt at ages 18-24 were either influenced by pressure or hormonal pleasure?" This isn't entirely true hun!
That the consciousness of maturity and responsibility is often inevitable the minute we step in our 20s is a huge pointer to the fact that everything we indulge in voluntarily have a sprinkle of "self-awareness" including all of those decisions we made getting into relationships before we turned 25!
"So, did I waste all of my time dating all of those people before I turned 25 since science suggests I'm not fully ready to make decisions until I'm 25?"
Well, not entirely true if you asked me! You're aware! Amongst other things.
You're not 25 yet? Good! keep reading, you'd definitely need this!
It is plain truth that relationships teach you what you deserve and keeps you in the know of your worth, especially if the previous relationships you were in didn't give or show you all of the things you sought from it and the best way to actually get a grasp of yourself is to actively indulge in relationships before 25 hits you!
25 is not the ultimate age and it's perfectly okay to get into serious dating after 25- just in case you're wondering why I hammered out the figure "25" in your face!
In your 20s, you're energetic, wild, keen on exploring every inch of life and yourself. You are open to friendships, intimacy and everywhere you turn to, there's a billboard of "relationship goals" staring you in the face ; it usually slaps hard if you're single though.lol
So you decide to try something out! At 21, there's you trying so hard to show someone how much you love them not hiding the fact that your hormones are at its peak and sometimes extreme.
At 22, you act like you got it all together, no rush! "Imma just take my time" you say to yourself.
At 23- 24 "You feel like there's better out there especially if you're not being treated right and you're working on decisions to leave! Now here's where it gets fascinating- you're unsure about leaving or staying. You feel like you need a break from the too many mid-life crisis but then your homie just had a cute baby!
At 25, you feel like the biological time of your life keeps ticking so fast and the pressure to be with someone heightens, especially if you haven't been with anyone lately. You see tons of engagement parties and somehow you want to experience that too! You might want a baby! But damn! Work!
At 25, you've got bills to settle. Work becomes so exhausting, you get so busy that you almost never have time for yourself or relationships and you're torn between building a great work life and love life.
Indulging in Relationships before 25 helps you balance yourself up, asides being a good tool for character development, it works out every piece of you and places you where you need to be mentally, relationship-wise.
Centuries ago, our ancestors got married before they got in their late 20s, had kids and were probably grandparents at an early age.
But then there's us! Saddled with so much responsibility whilst trying to balance work and social life, living so carefree and probably with little or no time for relationships - don't beat yourself up! This thingy is a pandemic, there are more people affected too; more than you know of!
It's okay to get into serious dating after or at 25. It's okay to have had shitty previous relationships and even more. You may not get exactly what you want but you get laden with the needed experience to be better at relationships before 25 and after that!
There are no manuals to these things so damn science and society's biological clock! Do you!
Until you think you’re ready, keep living and keep exploring life to the fullest.
Cheers.
